Dark-Skinned Girls On Colourism | Sister

Dark-Skinned Girls On Colourism | Sister



Colourism is a real and persistent problem for dark-skinned people of colour. It differs from racism, in that it’s about how dark your skin is. Racism usually comes from a different ethnic group, but colourism can come even from someone from the same ethnic group as you.

Here, three dark-skinned women talk about the frequency of colourism in music lyrics and music videos, on TV, in Bollywood movies, in cosmetics, and in dating and relationships.

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  • pepsi max Reply

    Is this a joke there not saying hey u can't vote your black they are saying they prefer the look of some girls I don't see why u people get so triggerd. You people are obsessed with anything that discriminatory we have this with white people it's called tanned Vs non tanned and if someone is ridiculously light skinned we Joke about burning like why do u care

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • antoine Holmes Reply

    They are not that attractive regardless of being dark also pale as fuck people are not attractive either.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Jaren C Reply

    I feel so brainwashed by this world.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Odin's Follower Reply

    I wouldnt date a Black woman… there i said it.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Odin's Follower Reply

    Colorism = Racism… dont think you can just distinguish the two. you cant.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Happy Dolans Imagines Reply

    Everyone is beautiful just the way you are 💗no matter what

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Pot noodle Reply

    if i go to africa ect ect i don’t expect them to have pale foundation shades

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • MERCYLYNE KUIN Reply

    Why did people let the colonialists brainwash their minds about color?!!and damn that us long gone ..people need to wake up!!

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Lee💕🐻 Reply

    i can't believe people still don't understand the difference between having a preference and colourism.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Saheb 000 Reply

    India is fuck up..too much racist even i can become a white like hola white and in Summer i become holla black..when I white ppl like me but when I black..they build me .I hate it

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Hargrove 330 Reply

    Idk why dark skin or brown skin women hate the fact that light skin women are loved by black men. Women have preferences to the ceiling but when black men’s preference isn’t choosing them they want to complain and scream how they aren’t appreciated, etc. Women talk about how they love dark skin men and not light skin men all the time but in reality they’re both black, As well as body types, and Height. Women need to stop hating on these beautiful BLACK light skin women. Period. It’s plenty of black men out here choosing dark skin and brown skin women. The problem is those women aren’t choosing back. They curve black men 24/7 as if they’re taken but complain about being single and not favored. It doesn’t make any sense. Black women hate colorism but divide themselves from light skin women because alot are jealous. And that’s the craziest shit ever. You’re all black. I’ve seen it on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook of dark skin women talking down on light skin women and I don’t get it. And it’s not about how society and tv portray black women. Let’s not act like SOME black women don’t act how tv portrays them. Because searching up a video of black women going crazy and acting ratchet is literally on YouTube. It’s not false. Another thing black women do is put black men down. When a black man is doing everything right he is everything great in the world to her. Soon as he makes a mistake or something black women scream how men aren’t shit, they’re broke, never be nothing, a bum, etc. So I get why black men look elsewhere sometimes. The fact that black women think men are intimidated by a black womans success alone proves my point. If a black woman who hasn’t even found success yet can speak down on a black man when she angry or upset. What do you think a “successful” black woman would do? Trust me that’s not intimidating. That shit just don’t feel good. Not even in the slightest. If anything, black men take what black women say about them to the heart the most. But they don’t realize that. Men don’t care about what a woman pockets look like or what her career is. We leave that to women. Because in reality that’s what they judge men on. Hence my previous comments about how they talk down on men when they’re angry, etc. I’m tired of this dark skin women aren’t favored bullshit. A lot of y’all need to look at yourself or find the time to actually ask a black man why they don’t choose y’all. It’s not for no reason. The same way y’all feel about how “black men favor light skin women over dark” is the same way how light skin women feel they aren’t dark enough. Everything isn’t about y’all. Y’all are beautiful. Dark, Brown, Light skin. You are all black. Why don’t men trip about this when black women only want dark skin men? Don’t forget dark skin men weren’t always the thing. Some years ago light skin men were the topic of every discussion with women. This double standard stuff has to go. I remember when I was in elementary and then high school. I had black women sitting next to me and claimed she needed to move over because she didnt want to get blacker. My whole childhood black women (but black people in general) made front of me for being dark skin. It should’ve never been to the point where I felt more comfortable around white people than my own because then, they didn’t have to make front of how I looked just to fit in. They didn’t give af about fitting in or getting other people to laugh by making someone feel like they aren’t good enough. A lot of this shit is deeper than what y’all think.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Alanah Watts Reply

    People think that light skins are better and they do not care how people feel like all people are the same this is why skin bleaching is a thing

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • nancy kyohirwe Reply

    preach how can I get in touch with you all? Am a black girl who has struggled with colourism

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Lyric Epps Reply

    is it me? or does colorism generally and usually effect the darker skinned women (personally) than it does the men? 🤔

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Lara O Reply

    So many beautiful darker skinned ladies feeling pressure to lighten their skin to be 'more attractive', and then there's beautiful pale skinned women who risk skin cancer to get darker skin to be 'more attractive', Jesus we live in a messed up society

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Toccara Tigur Reply

    And to think I've got clowned all through school because I just always have had a strong attraction and desire for chocolate women.i used to tell those clowns the hell with their opinions , because just like they don't have to change their color preference neither do I #lol im a chocoholic.i would tell any if you queens keep your skin as is because I don't know what I would do without having that beauty to behold💐

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Janet Cousins Reply

    If you are confident in the beauty of you skin no one would be able to make you feel less about it. Truly sick of hearing about these stupid, insecure, insignificant racists, colourists and the equally foolish and insecure. people who allow themselves to have doubt about their own worth.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • shifna shifu Reply

    Yes so true always look got skin girls are pretty I hate this god why do they have to have blue eyes blond hair not nice oky

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Najma ameen Reply

    They’re all so beautiful!!! Dark skin girls ftw!!!!!

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • The android with sick coin tricks Reply

    White people are the reason for colorism, like they are for racism…

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • NPC TARD Reply

    Do you lot work for marxist dulux?

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Tony Williams Reply

    Victim-hood mentality man its so UNATTRACTIVE MAN. Yall Jedi mind tricking yourselfs man. Its not thjat deep. Men just want a cool woman with can chillwith. . Shade. color doesnt matter my G. Overthinking it.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Ciarra Worthy Reply

    This really speaks the truth when boys call me ugly because I'm to dark it hurts or because they only like lightskins with 3b hair it sucks that being who you are isn't enough

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Steve Serpe Reply

    the one at 2:20 is really pretty. anyway light skin is near universally favored because of social hierarchy. Meant you didn't have to work outside.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • LovingAtlanta Reply

    🤔What exactly is colorism? 🤨

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Lea Bouchard Reply

    Colourism is racist.There isn't anyway to put it.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • black stars Reply

    And i know a lot of dark males get frustrated because its hard to approach a dark woman and far more easier to approach lighter woman and by dark women being so cranky and hard to approach that make a lot of males ashamed and fed up because the attitudes are something they can't deal with so they start bashing. I know because thats how i be feeling like i just wanna start bashing everytime a black girl act all backwards i just hate to see women act negative toward me so it make me wanna avoid them. I look good and all i got waves and all and a lol of dark skin girls i dealt with would give me the credit of being good looking but yet they still act mean as hell and wanna give you a hard time.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • black stars Reply

    Im a dark skin dude myself. I noticed most dark skin people in general feel ashame about themselves. They feel more comfortable with approaching a light skin person more so than a dark skin person. Dark skin dudes tend to express interest in light skin women more than dark skin women but dark skin women usually refuse to approach a dark skin male and want them to approach instead but whenever they like a light skin dude they apprach the dude first. Dark skin women show more pride and happiness when they do prefer lighter guys but with darker guy you cant even tell if they really like him or not because she dont show it at all and thats why so many dark males like myself have a hard time appraching a dark skin woman. Its far more easier to speak or approach to a white or light skin women because they smile and show interest in you but dark women dont and if they do then i can't tell.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • DOPE TIZZLE Reply

    Black is beautiful period

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Hamza Reply

    Stop crying.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Tamia ! Reply

    "You're pretty for a black girl"

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • MrAhmes2001 Reply

    All Darkie’s get swiped left on tinder

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Latoya Wiggins Reply

    Colorism can be towards lighter skin as well. This is all based on European standards that should Not be a standard for all.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Dinora Reyna Reply

    I feel like im the only tan mexican girl out here, like it seems like everyone else is that white mexican or so called "brown mexican" when they arent even that dark/ moreno like come on🙄

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Xxeatingcupcake xX Reply

    But being darker is actually healthy guys

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Sonya Reply

    Actually women are more colourist. Just checkout the okcupid statistics. Everyone defaults to white men and men of colour are shoved aside.

    The most common pairing in Europe are females with white partners. Why don't I see black women with Asians, Chinese, Latinos etc?

    Females opt for white men at a dissportionate level in the West.

    Truth is men rarely desciminate whereas plenty of women perpetuate racial hypergammy.

    Me personally, I like all races and don't place whites on a pedestal.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Lisa T-Wright Reply

    I am so disappointed! I Youtubed "ugly black girl problems," and sure enough–these thumbnails on DARKSKINNED FEMALES appear. SMH. This is like literally saying that all deep-brown females are unattractive, and that just because of their skin-tone–LIGHTSKINNED FEMALES are exclusively beautiful! This that warmed-over bull…😖

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Rabiah Pascall Reply

    Colourist goes both ways, but some people hate to know this and admit this

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Kara Williams Reply

    Tbh I actually think darker skin women r beautiful . I never realize that until a couple days ago . It’s just something hot about it .

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Islandgyal Reply

    And it to make it clear when we dark skin women speak up about colorism we're not trying "force" or "guilt shame" black males to want us smh🤦🏾‍♀️. The same for when we blacks fight against racism, we're not asking white people to "want and love us"…… We just want to be respected and left alone simple! Everyday I would come across insultive post and memes about black women especially us dark skin women like myself and black males are the ones posting them it's repulsive! They would bash us for no reason that's why I stay far way from them because lots of black males are self hating and would project their insecurities onto us dark skin women and bully us as a way to hide their pain and how ugly they feel about themselves. Black males would complain about racism and turn around and emulate that same behavior towards us dark skin women and they wonder why the world has so much anti blackness. Black males have an obsession with light skin think am lying listen to the songs they make, and the sad thing is they put all other races of women on a pedestal and yet still they still treat them like shit…..a bunch of dysfunctional disrespectful conquered males. I want all light skin and other races of women to take black men and give us their men instead, lmao am married to a handsome mixed white and Indian man that loves me and our kids unconditionally! Dark skin women DIVEST and get with men of other races that will love you and marry you, you don't need 1000 men just 1…I did💞😊.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Ryon Morris Reply

    Black women are the most anti-black people out there and they practice colorism even more than Black men. Black men are the same as every other race of men who cannot help themselves find a beautiful and sexy woman attractive no matter her skin color. But the main thing that show how anti-black Black women are is the lack of support for dark skin Black women in the entertainment industry. Most Black women in the entertainment industry are light skin women like Carbi B, Beyonce, Nicki Minaj etc, while the dark skin ones like Azealia Banks struggle to make it. If Black women didn't have a preference for light skin Black women over dark skin ones. How would it be possible for light skin Black women like Beyonce to get so much support from Black women meanwhile dark skin Black women like Kelly Rowland who been singing along side Beyonce struggle to make it. Black women are the main ones who listen to the songs of Black female singers and they are the main ones who watch movies with Black female actress. So it's quite obvious that Black women have a preference for light skin Black female singers and actress or else the dark skin Black female singers and actress would be the ones they support the most. Go to Youtube and you will notice that light skin Black female singers like Beyonce and Rihanna have more Black female subscribers than the dark skin singers like Azealia Banks and Kelly Rowland. It's the same thing on Facebook and Twitter as well where you will notice that Black women like and follow light skin Black female singers more than dark skin ones. Even if we were living in a world where everyone hated dark skin Black women, as long as their fellow dark skin Black sisters supported them they would have no problem making it in the entertainment industry. Dark skin Black men don't have a problem making it in the entertainment industry because their fellow dark skin brothers support them and have their backs. So if dark skin Black women had the support of fellow dark skin Black women they wouldn't have any problem making it in the entertainment industry like dark skin Black men. Most Black women suffer from self-hate and when a person hate themselves then they cannot love someone who remind them of themselves, they will always reject them. This is why Black people who hate themselves reject other Black people and prefer white people. Black men who hate themselves reject and hate other Black men and prefer to be around other race of men. So when a dark skin Black woman hate herself, she will also hate and reject other dark skin Black women and prefer to be friends with a lighter skin Black woman with long straight hair.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • David Sauce Reply

    True questions I need answer on… okay back in the day dark skinned men were looked down on for a light skinned black man with good hair, but why so much backlash when the shoe on the other foot?

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • CrowdPleeza Reply

    Colorism is mainly about ignorance of human skin color. Being dark skin is a good thing. Because darker skinned people have more melanin. This melanin protects people with dark skin from sun damage.

    Watch this:

     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFw8mMzH5YA

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • shemilore ganna Reply

    We always talk about dark skins but we need to consider how badly light skins get treated by dark skin people🤷🏾‍♀️

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • l'homme qui médite Reply

    "Colorism" isn't a real thing. It's just racism.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Hollie Charles Reply

    They trifling for the thumbnail smh

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Endy Kenny Reply

    Just saying, I’m a bi girl, and my opinion is that dark girls are sexy, just like any potential female I’d be attracted to.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm
  • Drink me Fabulous Reply

    It's funny how some dark skin women complain about colorism but they attack light skin and medium brown skin women as not black enough. I'm talking about the ugly dark skin women. Not the attractive ones. I noticed that they like to sit around deciding who is or isn't black.

    November 20, 2018 at 4:01 pm

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