Black Man Says Black Women are “Too Independent” But Do Black Men WANT Dependent Women?

Black Man Says Black Women are “Too Independent” But Do Black Men WANT Dependent Women?



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  • Stopbeingahypocrite people Reply

    BLACK MEN ARE CONFUSED AND NASTY AS HELL, HE PROBABLY FUCKING HIS SELF , FIRST THEY SAY BE INDEPENDENT, NEXT THEY SAY BE DEPENDENT , WHATS NEXT, THEY ARE FREAKING CONFUSED.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Erika White Reply

    Women became independent when men became undependable. This is not for all men, but they know who they are.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • chels coyne Reply

    I will never need a man I work my ass off and getting my law degree

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Beyond Blessed & Highly Favored Reply

    I don't even look at black men in a romantic light anymore. They generally have an inflated sense of self, & think every kind of woman desires them.
    I do not care what they think, and could care even less about their approval of me.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • jennifer williams Reply

    Hmm.so..must be reliant on whom? Not black but wtf you want your black womwn to wait and be reliant on a man who don't committ plays games use and whatever else my nigga damn….the world is crazy

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • MisSarcastic Reply

    The man said “help” it was at that point that I concluded that this conversation is NOT about independent Black women but whatever charitable organization he’s running out of his wallet. I’m not even staying for the commentary, this has nothing to do with anyone I know.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Kevin Miller Reply

    Who told you BM want Wakandan warriors?! Total BS. A women paying some of her way in these expensive times is quite different from, "I'm skrong and independent and don't need no man!" It's pretty common with whites. You're straw manning.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Lisa Irby Reply

    It's a shame the men that need to hear this message will probably never watch this. You're dropping so many facts here.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Nina Blaze Reply

    These same men complaining about women being to independent are the same men who will make A FOOL outta you for depending on them. What they want is for a woman to give them the opportunity to ruin their lives.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Lola S. Reply

    Natural providers?? LOL is that why most men like this immediately run out on their wives and children? Give me a break.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Shandra9000mail Reply

    He's right. He's a real "Nigga" meaning he doesn't want you to have more than him. He wants a dependent broke bitch who needs him for something so he can control her. No Ma'am.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • T Amza Reply

    They say all this but won't support their women in staying home to raise their children and adequately care for the home.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Sonja Teal Reply

    Black Men don't want Women. They want rescue pups!

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Ky Cannon Reply

    I’m so over being confused on what a black man wants/likes. As black women I don’t feel like we should care anymore. There’s someone for everyone, he might not be black but there’s nothing wrong w/ that 🤷🏾‍♀️ we gon be good either way

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • DAM YOUR PRETTY Reply

    AWWW! YOU WERE THINKING THIS MORNING, DID IT HURT. IT'S NOTHING WRONG WITH A WOMAN BEING SELF EFFICIENT AND GETTING HER OWN, BECAUSE AS SOON AS SHE DEPENDS ON A MAN, TRUST! SHE WILL FIND HERSELF DISAPPOINTED, WAITING ON HIM TO GIVE HER SOME MONEY, WAITING ON HIM TO GIVE HER WHAT SHE NEED. A WOMAN IS GOING TOO ALWAYS NEED SOMETHING. WE ARE WOMEN. THAT'S A WEAK MAN TO ME, IF HE FEELS A WOMAN SHOULD DEPEND ON HIM, AND SHOULD NOT DEPEND ON HERSELF. EVERYONE SHOULD LOOK OUT FOR THEMSELVES PERIOD, YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT MIGHT HAPPEN IN A SITUATION, AND SHE HAS TO KNOW THE ONLY ONE WHO'S GOING TO HAVE HER BACK IS HERSELF WHEN IT ALL COMES DOWN TO IT. NOT HER FRIENDS, THEY CAN LET YOU DOWN, FAMILY CAN LET YOU DOWN, AND YOUR NOT GOING TO LET YOURSELF DOWN, UNLESS YOU ARE YOUR OWN WORST ENEMY. JUST BEING REAL, SO I LIKED HIM UNTIL I HEARD THIS BS COME OUT OF HIS MOUTH.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • ShinyBusterBaby Reply

    Well said!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • ThickkBeautyy Reply

    This is deff true. I agree with pretty much all of your talking points. Especially, the part that black women are shamed for feeling like other races of women who want a man who can provide. I never got why. I'm not saying that women should aspire to be illiterate, barefoot and pregnant and just constantly producing kids all the time, but at the same time, I feel it's in a woman's nature to want to have a man that can provide. After All we are the mothers in the family unit, and I know I for 1 want a financially stable man, so that when I go on maternity leave, when I have a child and I'm unable to work those few months or maybe even a year, I want to be able to condidently know that my man can hold down the house and were not going to be on the brink of eviction WITH a newborn at that. That security is what women want and for some reason being a woman of color, society makes us feel condemned for wanting that. Smh. Shame.

    I have a friend who's white and that girl hasnt worked in YEARS. She's married now to the guy but even at the back when they were only bf/gf, he allowed her to be a stay at home gf (if thats even a thing lmao) and allowed her to focus solely on school FT and not have to work. I've always found thay astounding, bc Lord knows that those kind of men are a TREASURE AND VERY VERY RARE. Some women have ALL the luck. Lol

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Courtney OmegaDeLancy Reply

    This is a late post but when I was dating a guy at 4 months I asked him to pay my phone bill, I mentioned this on a blog 3 years later (after we had broken up and I left him and the engagement) and was genuinely surprised that so many women shamed me for asking him to pay my bills after 4 months of dating. I actually wounded up defending my self as a mother and as being college educated because I asked him to pay a 50 dollar bill! You would've thought I asked him to fund a vacay. One sis even said that since we hadn't been having sex I was out of order for asking him to fund anything. It's sad when men think this way but further harmful when our women do. Furthermore I should've left him that day because he complained about paying it.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Courtney OmegaDeLancy Reply

    I get mad when people tell me how strong I am. I know they think it's a compliment but real talk family, I want the love and need the help of a husband. A partner. A co-kingdom builder

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Traveling Diva2018 Reply

    So the question becomes, when are they going to start providing and leading then? Black men aren't doing it; which us why we have to be independent.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • T Dat Reply

    Shout out to to all the feminists who talking shit in the comments but about to turn over in bed and get dicked down by a bum who has nothing and pays no bills . Shout out to y’all. ❤️🌹

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • RealTalk101 GangstaChannel Reply

    Ladies remember this….. You are raising todays and yesturdays boys.. 😉. Not yesturdays men… And stop calling these types of men black men…. Call them koons and busters.. Bcause they already want to side with the other side…. And this goes for our black women too… Besides it is you who are raising the boys and girls… So case close! Men are locked away 2million of of us…. So raise men to be intrested in a choice of black women… Then maybe things will change around. Boys need to be tuff not spoiled…

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Belizean Bad&Bruja Reply

    Black man Force black women into Independence and now they're complaining about it I'm an 80s baby 2 and I remember a lot of songs coming out about how they won independent woman so now that you got one now it's a problem. they forced women to become independent to raise their kids on their own bringing their own paychecks so for a woman to have to be doing that of course they will develop an attitude over the years I'm not saying that's its right. of course they would say I don't need a man because for a long time literally they didn't eat one it wasn't their fault they get me one because it wasn't getting support they should getting.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • 2008TINAH Reply

    I stopped listening to him once I realized he was from Love & Hip Hop LA. I can't anyone seriously from a show of that nature.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • justha vingfun Reply

    Vulgar man what a turnoff

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Hey lala Reply

    Stop being broke then I'll stop being independent 💁🏾‍♀️

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • theLearner Reply

    5:12 that whole argument is severely flawed since we know that an extremely hi percentage of black woman aren’t married when they have kids (usually means they picked the wrong negro…what else is new)

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • theLearner Reply

    He is saying that woman need to be more co-dependent. If you can’t see that, you probably have had problems with men on this issue.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Liz Kimani Reply

    So true Sis…I feel everything your saying….

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Carmen Reply

    Good Morning Beautiful… I'm a long time listener and now a subscriber., I think in one of your vids you mentioned you're in your twenties. 👀if so you're soo intelligent and self intellectually aware,.. luv u ❤️❤️❤️

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Chantal Songbird Reply

    They want dependent non-black women.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Adrienne Wright Reply

    The goal post KEEPS MOVING and CHANGING. Sistas can't listen to these fools not for a minute and bw are the only race of women who's expected to play by rules nobody else is expected to play by🤦🤦 we NEVER needed them bc they've ALWAYS needed us. This nigga need to go to HELL lol

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Kenna P Reply

    Black women stay independent! Black men continue to prove they are not dependable! They do not support their women, children or communities. In comparison to other men Black men are weak.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Msjawanda Reply

    I sure he made that sex statement 2 the independent ladies that say "All a man is good 4 is their tongue & D*ck" So he just simply saying 2 those women fuck ur self…but every1 hear things different

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • Ms J Reply

    A friend of mine is Iranian and is currently looking for an Iranian partner. Here’s her criteria;

    1. At least a masters degrees, but ideally a PHD
    2. Earning at least twice her salary
    3. To be the breadwinner……handle all financial, domestic responsibilities (repairs, getting things paid)
    4. Able to afford a maid or some kind of domestic help
    5. And to treat her like a lady….making sure she doesn’t have to carry any bags or do any heavy lifting or physical labour etc.
    6. Marriage and family minded.

    Can you imagine if black women applied the same criteria in the black community? This is standard criteria for women of some ethnic groups, but somehow I don’t think black men would be too keen. And to add to this, she is the most submissive woman I know, very ditsy and girly….she has absolutely no interest in equality or feminism.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • kandacegunter Reply

    🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm
  • S. Jones Reply

    We can't afford to be dependent. Isn't best to be wanted versus needed. Sounds like insecurely and a need for a degree of power in a relationship when a man wants to be needed instead of just wanted.

    December 22, 2018 at 5:39 pm

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