Are Dark Skinned Women & Light Skinned Men Allies in fighting Colorism?

Are Dark Skinned Women & Light Skinned Men Allies in fighting Colorism?



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  • KaptanSolo Reply

    wow….do people listen to videos before commenting?

    Ok so SWP is correct about one aspect of light skinned dudes and their "strength" against the power of the media… Since they aren't promoted, they aren't paired up (which is the act of TELLING dark skinned men who they should be with) with any particular woman in mainstream media. So, in fairness, we can't say light skinned men are impervious to media pressure when no media pressure is being applied.

    As Cynthia G stated, there isn't any real reduction in racism despite there being a rise in IR. Reason for this, whites or others who are involved with blacks may truly like or love that individual, but their involvement is not an endorsement to end racism. They may like you, but they didn't sign up for all of the ills of the black community.
    The same thing is true when it comes to light skinned men's interests in dark skinned women. They may like you but that doesn't mean they are firemen to extinguish colorism even if they are not "colorists" themselves.
    Due to the way media promotion has gone over 25 years or so, I would say lsbm can relate more to the issues that dark skinned women have when it comes to colorism. LSBM have their own way of dealing with colorism and I would say it has a lot to do with their gender and that is why people don't hear about it as much.

    When it comes to the subject at hand, The only "black" people today are dark skinned men, light skinned women and dark skinned women. When lsbm went out of the style in the early 90s it was a fairly thorough. Why do I say this? For the most part, it is not a secret that light skinned men are NOT "preferred" when it comes to black women (light or dark). Media promotion does have its way with whomever the target audience is and the lack of promotion of lsbm AND the promotion of hyper-masculinity/sexual prowess associations with dark skinned black men resulted in lsbm sort of falling into the background. As Chrissie pointed out, BW don't care who lsbm date. You can't accuse a man of self-hate if he is actually dating his hue counterpart. This includes some other non-white minorities because of the ambiguity of lsbm. BW don't care that Drake is involved with J. Lo but they were flipping out about Malik Smiley. Why? Because Malik is dark and represents "blackness". I know there are many here who will disagree and I could give less than a damn if you do.

    For the most part, if you don't look like you could have been on one of the slave ships coming through the middle passage, you can't represent "blackness"(get the point, don't take it to the extreme). There were no light skinned people in the holds of ships involved in the triangle trade.

    In understanding what I just said about Malik, one should wonder why light skinned black women are included as "black" when none of them look like they could have been on any of those ships as well?
    Light skinned women have been promoted as "black" women by the mainstream. Hell, mixed women have been promoted as "black". Light skinned black women have never been respectfully rejected by dark skinned black men the same way that they(lsbw) and dark skinned black women tend to do with light skinned black men.
    Truth be told, based on the definitions of self-hate that dark women use when speaking of dark skinned black men and their interest in light, bright, white, other, etc…. …the same should apply to light skinned women. Light skinned women have about as much interest in light skinned men as dark skinned women do. It's a fairly low interest across the board and they should be considered "self-hating" but for whatever reason, they have been allowed an honorary black card which endorses their interest in dark skinned black men.

    BW (light and dark)(not all of them) will use lsbm to slam dark skinned men on occasion. It is usually effective because dark skinned men almost immediately start with their own insecurities by degrading the guy's complexion. "Beige Mofos" and other terms are meant to point out the lack of blackness of light skinned black men by dark skinned men. It is interesting because a lot of dark skinned dudes are no different than white women or light skinned women, all confident until something different is introduced and then despite all of the promotion and the women who want them, they start feeling some kind of way.

    It's not that light skinned men don't have any issues with colorism. They just tend to not have the same issues as dark skinned men when it comes to dating darker women. For the most part, light skinned guys date whomever they are attracted to. Dark men do seem to judge women based on what the media has established is the finest for a dark skinned man…and they pick accordingly.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Leroy Thomas Reply

    Nice video!

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Nicolas Joseph Reply

    I prefer light skin but it's not because I want light skinned babies or anything my mom's side they always have pale pink babies with light skinned people if they are like their father because he's brown skinned and his father's light so the kids he had that were like him all had pink pale newborns. My mom is like her dad's clone only a bit darker. And so I had to come out pale pink along with gray eyes for the first month. I always considered myself an ugly baby and all white babies to be not at all pretty same goes for light babies who are pink of any race imo. Dark babies come out pretty babies from the start. I remember wanting to be the male baby next to me much bigger than me because he was dark skinned. And looked prettier imo. So it's not about babies it's about preference. Personally never understand would it be colorist for you to prefer dark skinned men which from your youtube you do prefer dark skinned men over light skinned men. That's colorist if it's colorist for me to prefer a light brown or even a little darker than me the lighter end of caramel brown. How is it colorist to like people your color if you're light. It's not colorist for a light skinned for light skinned man to only be interested in light skinned women. Anymore than it is colorist for dark skinned men or women to only date dark skinned women or men. What I don't get is how come all light skinned women you think all are going for dark skinned men. And why do you have anger for light skinned women being with dark skinned men? But you don't have the same view for dark skinned women with light skinned men? You're the same thing how is that a good thing when it boxes light skinned women into your men that have more of a propensitiy of hating themselves….

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Jacklynn Jackson Reply

    Dk is sooo REGAL

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Ashley Moreau Reply

    My take on that is that itโ€™s all caused by the white supremacy thing… because black people cannot become white obviously (god bless that melanin), they fetishize the lighter complexion meaning being closer to looking white.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Tav Yisrael Reply

    I'm red and my man is dark as the dark side of the Moon and I love it! I see it as genetic security to have a richly melanated partner. Both my parents are light skinned (yes, they are both black with having both black parents btw lol) I have always been attracted to darker men. They have a boldness to them I can't get from no other color and Creed of men LOL! My man let me know the first time we saw each other he wanted me ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. He said it with such conviction I was like, "…๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ถ๐Ÿ™ƒ๐Ÿ˜ผ๐Ÿ˜ป OKAY!๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ‘ซ" And we've been best friends ever since lol!

    I think black people should stop treating our relationships like they're INTRA interracial-racial relationship's if that makes sense lol And we'd all get on code just fine.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • SHARUNDAK Reply

    Dark skin men and light skin women are really the problem. They have a lot to lose if dark skin women and light skin men start thinking alike.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • SHARUNDAK Reply

    We should be…โ˜•โ˜•

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • HeavyMental1000 Reply

    Interesting take. We love our dark women but truth be told, we date everyone. I dont even make skin color the priority when choosing a woman. Hell, one feature on one woman, might look better on one woman vice others. But as far as promotion, man, we don't care. What do we need promotion for? Whatever, we just do our thing. Once I get past looks for initial interest, I check the mind to make sure we are on the level. I havent had any real problems with dark skinned brothers. In my experience, we share a kinship that light skin/dark skin women do not. Of coarse there have been exceptions but rarely.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Choco Latte Reply

    So basically we are alone. But not even, because some dark skinned women don't even have other dark skinned women backs. Wow. Its a good thing my lovely parents told me all the time from I was a lil girl until now that I'm beautiful because it's hard having self esteem in a society that looks at your complexion and have many negative stigma for it. Even the people that look like you. I'm so happy I found your channel.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • shygirlcomplex Reply

    Lol that meme …. we outta style until they want a cute baby ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ… oh lord … I enjoyed this video too much , Iโ€™m light brown … canโ€™t lie I do love the quote drakes of the world … ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜•not the actual whorish behavior but the so called sensitive bits ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • alicesbeloved Reply

    Chrissie, what do you think of Black- Panther & esp Insecure, on HBO.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Nolan Maverick Reply

    As a light skinned a man, i can say we are generally more concerned with "basic" racism than "inter-race racism" or colorism. The importance of beauty regarding dating is more a female burden. My being closer to meeting Eurocentric beauty standards doesn't mean as much since I'm a man and what I do matters more than my "beauty". Colorism stems from the burden of African looking women having to compete in the dating market where the beauty standard is more difficult for them to meet than any other race of women coupled with Black men exercising their option to date different races (at more than 2x the rate than Black women) that do meet Eurocentric standards of beauty.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Woo Farmer Reply

    I'm a light skinned man who always been attracted to dark skinned women.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • lorenzo moye Reply

    This lady always talkin facts

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Breezy Bre Reply

    Most light skin men I've meant are hella confident (it doesn't seem that colorism affects them that much, to me) and arrogant. I would never say they face exactly what darker blacker women. There's a difference. I've heard horrendous colorist remarks from lighter and mixed men, just as I have heard from dark skin men.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Margit Ouma Reply

    I'm dark, and it was the light guy and white guy that's treated me the best. The worst, a dark skinned man. It is what it is.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Bracks! Reply

    This is bullshit yโ€™all not getting attention from dudes so yโ€™all wanna try to blame shit on us .

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Bracks! Reply

    Why are yโ€™all tryna blame everything on dark skin men. Yโ€™all are the ones insecure

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • KiaraLaShaye 17 Reply

    My boyfriend is biracial black and white and that's just what I like I have no problem with our dark skin men

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Karim Palmer Reply

    How are light skin guys and dark skin girls are allies. They just lovely couples like any body else. I reverse that topic and say are light skin girls and dark skin guys allies. The whole damn world do not revalve around light skin girls and dark skin guys. Who gives a damn it's so typical and overrated. So I don't know what this dumb ass trend is trying to prove. But the trend is old and boring. I date any girl that's looks good Not for her color I am free not program

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Dania x Reply

    LSBM never went out of style in the Caribbean.. I think I can speak across the board. In afrocarib DSBM are still in style too.. Really good looks is what's instyle over here. If you look good you look good. And Black is black over here. It's nothing to break down n dismantle.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Marc Calizaire Reply

    Chrissy you fool of shit

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Tre Hazel Reply

    This video is pointless if your not going to respond back to your comments.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Lendell Coe Reply

    Im sorry im a light skinned black man , ive been talked down on by my own people my whole life , hated by dark men and dark women just because im light . and alot of them are people that i just met . i like women of all colors i don't judge on color because i no how it feels . because i ain't gonna lie it comes off as hatred and racist.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Mz Missy Reply

    Smh.. Willie lynch is real

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Lucylakemitulu1 D Reply

    Waouu

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • TheSnowFoxParty Reply

    I think all black people of all shades can combat colorism

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Bless The Prince Reply

    I can count on one hand how many beautiful dark skin women Iโ€™ve seen in person. So I think a magazine of only beautiful dark skin women make sense. Everybody has a lane

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • George Mendez Reply

    what the hell is "light skin"? look at me, im still dark…. if you're not WHITE your dark

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Black Heart Reply

    A lot of this information is very new to me. But it explains a lot to me as well. I now understand why a lady classmate in high school came up to me, touched my hair and looked at it carefully, then said to me "If you were a girl, you'd have been goofy as hell." I have seen videos that I thought were funny, but they were joking about things like light skinned men being under-aggressive and soft, and more original-looking brothers being hyper-aggressive. I honestly thought these were just jokes, until I realized that they weren't because many believed this at even older ages. Also, the truth is that women may be "rumored" to prefer light-skinned men, but in the southeast where I grew up, they drew the line at a Shaun King-looking negro and said that was it and too much.
    When I was about 24, it was told to me that in fact, Black women had been treating me differently from other Black men, even other light-skinned Black men, because I was too pale and my hair was too straight, and thus, even women that liked the look, couldn't be seen out in public with me, so this was why I was being differently, especially in public, and that this was why married and involved women were approaching me in private to be a side nigga. This was before there was a term "side nigga". I didn't know that this was why this was happening, though, until 3 lady friends at age 24 told me this. In all honesty, I realized then that colorism hit ALL OF US. I just wasn't aware that I had lived my life single because I was too light in the wrong region of the country, and in other areas of the US, it was really brown and melanated men who got the same treatment, though maybe in less of a degree.
    But in all honesty, I swear… when I learned this, I was HAPPY that Black women had taken a stance with their romance, genitals, and even their wombs against white supremacy, and I realized that no other women had done the same thing. Only black women (of varying shades), had decided on a low threshhold of resemblance to the oppressor to be excluded from reproduction. No other woman in history did this. If it meant I lived and died alone, then so be it. White supremacy deserved much worse of a setback than this, anyway.
    But all of this is to say that colorism does have an affect on all of us. We think light-skinned women have it easier all of the time. I know for a fact that they don't because I was one of many who gave them a rougher time or just outright isolated and ignored them. There were others who did it with me, even without hatred at times. I also heard the things that were said about women of all shades, and my own mother was stereotyped by our own people, as was my dad at times, and I was also negatively stereotyped, especially sexually, at inappropriately young ages. The bottom line is we Black people have been so damn harsh with each other, that we have made all shades pay dearly for whatever privileges we THINK the other shade got from anywhere. The light skin privilege we might get in the job market is offset by the same whites telling us that they're counting on us to keep our darker siblings in line. And none of this is to deny the hardships that we and white folks put our darker counterparts through.
    You keep defending dark-skinned Black women, Chrissie, because someone has to. They get told more often than any one else they're not as attractive, (although Black men who are really pale get told in no uncertain terms that their shade is a drawback, too, it's not nearly as bad as it must be for Black women.) But it is the case that all Black folks have been victimized by this. Even those of us in the middle of the spectrum get hurt by seeing relatives go through this. DSW have to be promoted and defended, but ALL of us have to get counseling for this trauma. None of us came out untouched.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • SageModeLuis Reply

    There is nothing better than having a darkskin girl with big lips give me head.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Charisma Wright Reply

    I must say. Most of the men Iโ€™ve dated have been light skinned… interesting ๐Ÿค”

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Muriel Oduro Reply

    We create the light skin men and women, how can they not be with us, unless they have been bought up in an anti dark black environment

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • luwakw01 Reply

    I'm not gonna lie: I see dark-skinned women wanting to align themselves with light-skinned men as a cover-up to justify their desire to be in closer proximity to whiteness/lightness. It's similar to black women that swirl, except this is a more covert version. It's like Tyrese lusting after his "black queen" when homegirl looked white-brite. It's safe, because they get to claim black, without having to have dark-skinned children. Clearly I'm totally against.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • A Royal Reply

    U watch porn thatโ€™s disgusting, how do you enjoy watching someone else go off in bed thatโ€™s nasty

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • mrbrainchild76 Reply

    A lot of hypocrisy in this video. Your standards of beauty are warped as well. What is "promoting your best". How does that make people feel that don't fit your euro standard of beauty in terms of body a face physical features? I think colorism is wrong but I also think beautyism is wrong.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • MushroomKingDom722 Reply

    I'm a white Mexican and prefer White woman and light skin women. It's sad but the darker the woman is the more ignorant she tends to be. I don't want a woman who curses worse than a sailor, are very aggressive/love to fight and has an IQ under 90.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Hey Hello Reply

    I'm a black woman and I used to like black guys. I used to coddle them. But now after seeing how arogant and disrespectful to black women these men are, my attraction to them has dropped so low.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Lennae Daley Reply

    I genuinely am attracted to dark skin men always have been. But in my experience Iโ€™m around a lot of females who prefer light skin skin and Iโ€™m always the odd man out

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am
  • Kevin Day Reply

    Kinda confusing don't care if a light skin man dates another light woman but it's problem when a dark skin man does.Must be because da dark skin man don't want to another dark skin woman,slick dissing light skin guys for there interest but want someone of the same complexion who has no interest in you,dosen't make any sense.

    December 27, 2018 at 6:42 am

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